Gloria Steinem, Condoleezza Rice, Stevie Nicks, and more on the decision not to have kids.
I would have been a terrible mother because I’m basically a very selfish human being. Not that that has stopped most people going off and having children.
- Katharine Hepburn
I’m completely happy not having children. I mean, everybody does not have to live in the same way. And as somebody said, ‘Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.
- Gloria Steinem
There comes some pressure in your mid-30s, and you think, ‘Am I going to have kids so I don’t miss out on something that other people really seem to love? Or is it that I really genuinely want to do this with my whole heart?’ I didn’t feel that my response was ‘yes’ to the latter. You have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did. So it’s just going to be me and Ellen and no babies — but we’re the best of friends and married life is blissful, it really is. I’ve never been happier than I am right now.
- Portia de Rossi
I’m not that big a fan of marriage as an institution, and I don’t know why women need to have children to be seen as complete human beings.
- Marisa Tomei
[…] I don’t know if I could stand that kind of commitment, or if I am really honest, I don’t think that I could handle being that vulnerable to someone else.
- Margaret Cho
Though I’m completely comfortable (shit, I’m nigh on ecstatic) with my choice not to have children, it’s still nice to read other women talking about how happy they are with their decisions. Not all of us want motherhood, no matter how excited we get upon seeing teeny tiny little baby socks or fat baby legs. It’s really something you’ve got to be sure of, and I feel like so many people do it just because it’s the done thing.
Not to mention society still rates motherhood as essential to womanhood but I don’t think you can say the same of fatherhood and mandhood.